When I say getting still, I'm not just talking about meditation. I do believe meditation is a wonderful practice that does need to be done daily.
Meditation doesn't have to be super-complicated. You don't need smartphone apps to do it; nor do you need spiritual woo-woo sounding music to do it either. It's really as simple as taking the time out of your day (deliberately, people - no multitasking here) to quiet your mind and focus on your breathing. Simple, right?
I can't tell you how getting still has helped me on my ongoing journey. Getting still, at least to me, means quieting your mind enough to listen to the wisdom from within.
Do you know how much wisdom you have inside yourself? It would blow your mind like being in a hurricane simulator if you experience it for yourself. Woman, you've got the strength of millions inside of you. Maybe your life hasn't gone down in such a way that you've needed to tap into it; trust me when I say, you can do more than you think.
We're all conditioned to look for the answers we seek outside ourselves. We're blessed to have so many teachers, healers, etc available to us whenever we need. (thank you Google - you're not just a doctor) Heck, you don't even have to listen to me! My mission is to help you tap into that timeless & ageless wisdom that you've been carrying around your whole life; to know who you are and what you can do.
So how do you get still? Follow these steps to get started:
What did you hear? What wisdom came to you? Share in the comments below.
6. You’ve got this gut feeling that there’s more to life than going to work every day
Your gut - be it a six pack or a keg - is an incredible source of wisdom and information. Lately your gut’s been telling you there’s got to be more to life than spending almost half of it indoors under fluorescent lights staring at TPS reports. Ever look around at your colleagues and wonder what their lives are like outside of the office?
I used to wonder if the especially rude people were just as snarky to their loved ones as they were to me. I’m sure you’re getting the message that working for an employer is all there is.
No, it isn’t.
The answer isn’t ‘start a business’ either. It was for me; don’t get me wrong. Yet so many people who left the rat race to start their own businesses end up creating the very same shite they tried to get away from. Womp womp.
7. You feel like you’ve outgrown your current role but there’s nowhere else for you to go in your current company
Jobs aren’t designed for people to stick around them for 30+ years like the good old days. Our parents had 1 job... maybe 2 but that’s pushing it... then retired to a far defined benefit pension. Not so much for our generation. We’re lucky if we last a few years in a job! Between outsourcing, downsizing and whatever the C-Suite has come up with to maximize shareholder profits, job security is a thing of the past. It’ll eventually come back like bell bottom pants... or so we hope.
Jobs aren’t even designed for optimal performance & productivity. Plus, succession planning is more like, just post it on Indeed or better yet, eliminate the job altogether.
You’ve been wondering for awhile if your job is actually necessary or if a primate or artificial intelligence could replace you. There’s nowhere to go but out at most companies today. You’ll need to ask yourself, Self, I gotta get out but to where?
8. You’ve been looking for another job yet that seems fruitless
So you need to get out of your current job; you decide to look for another one. You scour the job boards; secretly message people on LinkedIn praying to anyone who’s listening it doesn’t get back to your current employer; attend networking events; on and on until you realize that the new job you’re so desperately seeking is going to look and feel EXACTLY like your current job. Sure, the commute will change; you might even get a better compensation package. But instead of dealing with Marjorie the Marketing Minion, you’ll be putting up with Frank the Finance Fool’s reindeer games.
Isn’t it time to leave it all behind?
9. You get panic and anxiety attacks on Sunday nights
Supposedly Mondays are like a bad hangover without the home remedy (mine is greasy food, sports drinks and bananas in that order). Yet do you find yourself feeling like you’re drowning around 7pm on a Sunday night? All you that think about is the sheer nonsense you’re going to face first thing in the morning.
This isn’t life, lovely. Every day is truly a gift. Yet if your days are filled with dread for the next day, it’s time to do it differently. Sure, you could change your mindset towards work, but ultimately, work isn’t going to change. You must be the one to change & leave it all behind for good.
10. You may be experiencing a quasi-existential crisis
Did you know your gut feelings are practically infallible? If your gut’s telling you there’s gotta be more to life than going to a soulless job every day, then listen to your gut!
You are not your job. Your job is just something you do in exchange for money. You are a whole and complete sentient human being. You’re made of stars! It’s time to tap into the vast wisdom and knowledge deep within you to not only love yourself, but discover your true & highest Self.
,1. Every day feels exactly the same
"Let's try this again." For years those 4 words were the first thought of the day. I’d wake up thinking I was in some kind of endless loop; every action was always the same: wake up, eat, shower, get dressed, traffic, work, administrivia, eat, TV, bed. No matter what I did to change it up, it was always the same ol’ crap. Throw in some other variables (e. g. school run, ballet practice) and you’ve still got monotonous episode reruns that just happens to be your life. When you see this pattern occurring, it’s a clear indication that something’s either gotta give or something’s gotta go.
2. You feel like you’re sleepwalking through life
Think about autopilot for just a second. An airline pilot, with the flick of a switch, can fly a jumbo jet at 35,000 feet without having to do anything. She (yes, I said she) can go pee, eat a donut or play a quick game of Words With Friends without having to touch the controls of this flying behemoth. Are you on autopilot most days? Do you feel like you’re there; maybe even slightly present but not really? Mindfulness practice can help temporarily. Being mindful can also help you see the signs that your life needs to change. Stat.
3. Your interest in your field is waning
So you went to school for ___. Then you got a job doing _. Now here you are - 5, 10, even 29 years later wondering why in the name of everything green & good you’re in this particular field. Does it look good on the outside? Do people ooh and ahh when you tell them where you work and what you do? I had a job with such a well-known brand that when I told people what I did, I might as well have said I wipe celebrity backsides for a living. Yes, that initial reaction from others may validate your career choices for a few passing moments. Yet those people aren’t oohing and ahhing in your ear all day, right? Ultimately it’s about how you feel about your current situation. Those ooohs and ahhs are just another fart in the wind when you look at the big picture.
I spent a decade in Human Resources. I can’t even begin to tell you how being in that field made me want to dig out my own eye with a spoon. So I left the field and haven’t looked back. I got a lot of chatter in my ear about it but I know even to this day i made the right decision. Besides, sitting around talking about how to justify firing people to save shareholder dividends gets horrendously boring after awhile. You can do the same thing, too.
4. Daydreaming is preventing you from productivity
Find yourself spacing out more often these days? What do those space journeys look like? Okay, aside from stealing your boss’ convertible and putting it through a brick wall... tempting as it sounds, that execution just won’t end well. Somewhere on life’s journey someone told you dreams aren’t ever possible and only come true for the chosen few. Not true, lovely. Dreams are possible. Did your heart pump blood to every part of your body? Did you breathe in & out every moment of this day? Understand that when you’re working with the Universe, there isn’t anything it can’t do. So next time you catch yourself daydreaming in that super-boring week sales meeting, don’t punish yourself. Those daydreams are the Universe’s way of instant messaging you.
5. You thrive during your time off from work
Remember that last long weekend? You know - the one where you had an extra day off after the long weekend was over? Where the sun shone every friggin’ day; you were surrounded by your loved ones and couldn’t stop laughing; where you smiled at everything just because; where you didn’t have to check into work to see if there was something “mission critical” going on? Yes, it sounds freakishly like a beer commercial on May 2-4 weekend but your life could truly be full of laughs, smiles and good times. What are you doing on your days off? I’m not talking about chores; I’m talking about things you love to do. These things’ll give you a clue to your new life outside of the 9-5.
It's that time of year where you're inundated with goal-setting for 2018 or "make this year the best year yet!"... seems like everywhere you turn on social media, someone's got the answer.
Woman, let me be the first to get real with you. Setting goals is one thing. Making vision boards - yes, I do feel that's a great practice. Yet if you're not executing on a daily basis, then it's all for nothing.
I learned this very thing just yesterday. I'm still setting up shop and my to-do list is longer than lineups at the Apple Store when the latest iPhone comes out. Yet I found myself binge-watching TV for longer than I expected. Sure, the show was pretty interesting and I did want to see what happened, but that meant I didn't get done what I had wanted to.
I know this is the year my business takes off. Yet how can I do that watching TV? (Real) News flash - I can't. But I did something that most people wouldn't tell you to do when you find yourself feeling stuck and not executing like a boss.
I got still. Seriously - I took about 20 minutes to meditate and ask my Self what was preventing me from moving forward. The answer was fear. I was afraid of doing the task because of its size, cost, blah blah blah. So I took a few minutes to address those fears, thanked them for being there and told them to move on.
That thing I was afraid to get done? It's this website. As you can see, it's been built. Not too shabby I daresay!