Connection. We are constantly looking for ways to connect with other people. We try to connect on social media; through dating apps, in person at networking events; getting introduced to another person through a mutual friend... there's an endless list of ways to connect to other human beings.
We're not meant to exist in this world alone. According to Brené Brown, we're hardwired to connect with others.
So why is it when things are going right, we feel OK to reach out to someone but as soon as the tides turn, we close our doors to the world?
Let's talk about the latter for a second. Anytime we're experiencing a downturn - heartbreak is a prime example - our first instinct is to shut down and turn off. We shield ourselves from the world's light.
We don't want anyone to see us in this pain & suffering because somewhere along the line, we got told to keep that jazz to ourselves; no one wants to see it. Social media is rife with people only showing their 'good' side.
So why is that? Why do we tend to turn ourselves off unnecessarily and unnaturally? Ever felt like you'd be a burden to others by sharing your trials? I know I have. I've consciously chosen this many times in the past.
I learned, more recently than I care to admit (but hey, that's life, right?), unloading the burden means you're processing it and letting it go.
It's like if you were carrying 8 bags of groceries (in reusable bags, of course) by yourself and someone came along and helped you carry 2 bags, you'd feel a lot better! They're not carrying those 2 bags for you for eternity - it's just until you get to your destination then they'll let them go.
It's the same when you reach out to someone when you're feeling low. Let them carry your burdens for a time.
Just knowing that you've been seen and heard can do WAY more for your state of mind than you'll ever realize.
Is there someone you can reach out to today? Post in the comments below about how you can connect to that person.