How many times have you said out loud, "Oh, I'm SOOO busy"? Or someone's told you that they were too "busy to call/text/message/otherwise get in contact with you?
I had an epiphany about this not too long ago. I began to question my own busy-ness. Yes, I've got a ton of demands on my time. I'm a Supermummy raising a toddler. I'm taking a few courses. I'm building my business empire. I've got a to-do list that seemingly never ends.
I also have something else:
I'm not actually occupied every minute of every day, even though it feels like it. I do have time -more time than I think I do. I just choose how I spend the time I have.
Wanna know the secret to ending busy-ness forever? Here it is:
You've got a choice to say to yourself or someone else how busy you are. When you say you're busy to someone, what are you really saying? You're saying, "I'm choosing not to make time for you throughout the course of my day. I'm choosing not to place value on having a conversation with you at this present time."
Ouch, Althea! Yeah, I know! Granted, there's always exceptions to the rule. Say you're a brain surgeon and you're performing a complex procedure... and your bae calls. You can choose to take the call or choose not to. Either way, it still comes down to a choice of what's more important in that very moment.
Saying you're "busy" is a mask that's easy to hold up to shut the world out or those you find undesirable. Here's a truthbomb for you to chew on - no one (and I mean NO ONE) is actually as busy as they say they are.
If you've got time to check Pinterest, you're not that busy.
If you've got time to watch World Cup highlights (go Costa Rica!), you're not that busy.
If you've got time to wait 20 minutes in a drive-thru for your triple espresso-nonfat-no steam-extra-frothy latte, you're clearly not that busy.
There's someone out there that's waiting for you to reach out and connect with them. So make that choice. Choose to reach out to another person. Who knows - you could get a new client out of it, a new friend, a new lover or meet that one person who just happens to be your destiny.
Choose. That's all you have to do.
By the way, I've eliminated the word "busy" from my vocabulary. Instead, I make choices on how I spend my time.