Not too long ago I watched a Jay Shetty video about how we're in a time where our relationship status is more important that the relationship itself.
Sadly, I have to agree. It's super-easy to swipe left or right, not call that person back even though you felt a spark or better yet, just sit alone and pine away for that connection to a special someone.
Relationships take real, actual work. Those shiny happy Instagram pictures don't just happen - there's got to be exchanges that happen behind the scenes.
So what happens when a relationship produces children and things start to go south? The key is to recognize what's actually going on between both parties. If things haven't been right for awhile now, are they really going to get better?
I'm a HUGE advocate of ending relationships that have run their course - especially when there's children involved. Staying together for the sake of the kids is complete bollocks. Your kids'll learn that their parents not getting along as they should is normal. No, that's anything but.
Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship where you're miserable all the time but fake a smile in front of the little ones? You owe it to yourself not to do that.
Besides, kids are incredibly perceptive. I had an 8-year-old tell once, "Mommy and Daddy hate each other and that's why they got a divorce." That, my friends, is a verbatim quote.
So let the relationship go. Sure, the romantic part may be over but remember this - if there's children involved, your relationship will now evolve. That other person is still going to be in your life forever, regardless if you move on to another romantic partner or not.
Co-parenting is possible even when the sight of your ex makes you want to dig out your own eye with a spoon. I should know - I'm going through this as we speak.
Your kids deserve a childhood filled with memories & experiences that won't make a therapist uber-rich.
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