Ever wonder what your ex is thinking or feeling right after the two of you broke up? Here's exactly what they're thinking. Read it carefully - this'll help you ease that temptation of reaching out to them to see what's up.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve gone through it too... in fact, I still am.
I struggled with this decision. Yet, I knew it had to be done. We weren’t happy anymore. I just couldn’t keep pretending I was.
I see you struggling with your emotions; struggling to hang on to what we had. I struggled, too. Don’t think I didn’t mourn the end of our relationship; I really did... you just didn’t know it or see it.
I know this is hard for you. It’s hard for me too. I want you to know that you’ll go on; you’ll move on. We were just two people whose connection ran its course.
One day I woke up. I saw the sunlight streaming through the window. I felt like life was going on all around me... but somehow the channel was different. Everything I knew to be true was gone - disappearing when I opened my eyes after a long sleep. You didn't wake me up - I woke myself up.
So yes, it's a bit of "it's not you, it's me". The difference here is I'm owning up to it.
I know in my heart that our connection is gone. We were two people looking to end the constant disappointment of unsuccessful dates. We were both tired of waiting, hoping, worrying, wondering, analyzing the latest tweet/text/email from someone we wanted so desperately to be the proverbial ONE. When we got together, it was relief.
Or was it?
I ignored all the warning signs in exchange for not being alone in this world. So I kept going. We did have some incredible times. I still laugh at those jokes told right before bed or that time we went on holiday and just stared out at the ocean together.
Now I see that it's time to move on. I need to move on from us.
You gotta know I struggled with this. I knew in my heart it was over. I also knew I had no more love for you. There were times I didn't even want to look at you. But the prospect of going back to that lonely desperate single life wasn't really an option for me; neither was continuing to be with you.
For months I raged war within myself. I fought inside my head about what to do. Please know I never wanted to hurt you - I still don't. I don't even hate you. I just don't want to be with you in a romantic capacity any longer.
I know you think me cruel and heartless. Trust me, I know what I'm doing. I'm consciously choosing to bring our journey together to an end because it would've arrived there anyway.
Do what you need to move forward. I can't help you navigate the storm as I have to move away from you in that way. There's nothing you can't handle, no matter how hard it may seem.
Now that you know what your ex is thinking and feeling, what comes up for you? How will this help you move forward? I can definitely support you through this time. Book a free Let's Talk session with me here.