Those first few days after a breakup are definitely the hardest. Your emotions are running on overdrive. One minute you're seeing red and the next you're crying over that cute cat food commercial that you've seen a million times before.
Your girls keep telling you to move on! Suck it up, Buttercup - he's not worth your tears! Yes, they mean well. You've been through times like this before. Something's different though - this breakup is rocking you to your core.
As you open your eyes to another day, you're surrounded by a sea of dirty laundry, takeout boxes and dirty tissues. As you try to get yourself ready for the day, your mind can't stop replaying that conversation.
Yes, the relationship is over. Life isn't. In fact, it's just beginning.
Say what, Althea? I can't eat, I don't sleep and all I want to do is go back to bed and watch Notting Hill & eat ice cream.
While that may be a good short-term plan, it's not a permanent one. At some point you've got to face the pain and start moving through it.
Notice here I didn't say avoid it, ignore it or gloss it in love & light. The only way through the pain is to go through the pain.
So where do you begin to start to feel better? Start with basic self-care. Did you shower today? If the answer is no, then stop reading this blog right now and go have a shower. Do a load of laundry. Tidy up one room in your home. Do at least one thing every day that'll make you feel like you accomplished something. Then do 2 things. You get the idea.
Next, get a journal. Now that you're so fresh and so clean clean, go out into the world and buy a notebook. (no apps, people!) Make yourself a hot beverage and write down everything you're feeling in that moment.
Give yourself permission to feel everything you're feeling. Angry? Then scream into a pillow! Sad? Have a good, shoulder-shuddering cry. Let all those feelings out of your system.
In time you'll start to see things for what they are. You'll also start to get to know yourself from your journal.
Which one of these things is resonating with you the most? Share your thoughts in the comments below.