Recently I spoke to a client who was struggling to cope after her ex dumped her six months into the relationship. My client was devastated.
She truly believed this person was going to be a long-term fixture in her life. She described the breakup as something along the lines of "getting your heart ripped out of your chest".
Naturally she reached out to friends and family for support - only to receive an overwhelming chorus of "suck it up", "just get over it", blah, blah, blah.
Plus she was told to move on quickly because they'd only been together for six months and she shouldn't really be THAT upset.
Say WHAT?! People, let's get something fantastically clear right now. It doesn't matter if the relationship was 6 months, 6 days or 60 years. It still hurts.
Feelings are there no matter what and yes, they'll be affected regardless of how long the relationship was.
It's like saying if your grandmother dies it's no big deal but if it was your mother it's generally acceptable to grieve more for your mother as opposed to your grandmother.
Does this sound ludicrous & laughable to you? It sure does to me. A loss is individual to every person. The end of a relationship is a type of loss. Allow yourself all the time you need to grieve that loss.
No one can ever tell you how to feel at any given time, nor can they judge you for what they deem is an appropriate reaction to any situation.
YOU decide what's right for you. Period.
Need help through a heartbreak? Click here to discover how I can support you through this sticky time.