Every week I have to remember to put out the recycling & compost. I feel so green when I do this - like I'm really making a difference for the planet.
Then I realize I eat meat, wear synthetic fibres & use plastic bags. Give me an 'E' for effort. I do use Dr. Bronner's soap, though.
As much as recycling is a good idea, I'll tell you when it isn't. It's when you're single and decide to give one of your exes a shout to see what's up.
Before I go further, you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about because you've totally done it before! You somehow still have your ex's number/Instagram handle/work extension and you say to yourself, Self, I'm a grownup calling another grownup to say hello.
Your ex is an ex for a reason, honeybunny. The relationship broke down and you went your separate ways. Ask yourself this - what's the real motivation for reaching out to that person who slammed a sledgehammer into your heart? What are you actually hoping to gain from this conversation?
Think of it this way - it's like rifling through a heap of smelly, rotting compost only to find half an apple that, if you only cleaned off the decomposing salad leaves from last week's dinner party with the girls, you'd still be able to salvage it.
Yucky! (to quote one of my son's favourite songs) Why would you want to sift through that? I've got those compost bags that smell nice (not sure if that's earth-friendly either but definitely nose-friendly) but the fact remains - that stuff is breaking down to become something else... namely a worm's paradise.
Relationships are the same way. They run their course, break down then transform themselves into something better. That something better, my friend, is YOU. You in all your glory. You moving the eff on. You feeling happy, healthy and free to do whatever it is you want to do.
I do believe in the Universe. I also believe in second chances. I definitely had to learn the hard way when to let the Universe do its thing. In the meantime, let your recycling and compost go. When a relationship ends, let the decomposition begin.
Yeah, it sucks. And hurts! I promise you it's possible to come out the other side. After all, you can actually buy farm animal poop to put in your garden to make your plants grow. So yes - a little shite never hurt anybody.
That doesn't mean you start recycling unneccessarily. So don't do it. Recycle plastics, paper, anything with those curvy arrows... just not your exes.